Whatever the Mind of Man (and Woman) Can Conceive...

I have written at length about the body systems and why it requires a consistent, no-nonsense plan to achieve your weight loss goals.

Today, we're going to look at body weight and weight success from a different angle - the angle of the mind.

We're going to look at the role of the thoughts we think on our success in achieving the body we desire.

In the early 1900's, James Allen, from As a Man Thinketh, wrote "They themselves are makers of themselves by virtue of the thoughts which they choose and encourage; mind is the master weaver, both of the inner garment of character and the outer garment of circumstance. As they may have hitherto woven in ignorance and pain, they may now weave in enlightenment and happiness."

While "the inner garment of character" would be a very worthwhile topic for a blog, we're going to focus here on "the outer garment of circumstance", the body we are walking around with.

As a Life Skills Coach, I have focused much of my work on helping people get from where they are to where they want to be. And, in my experience with hundreds of participants, most people don't make a connection between their thoughts and where they are at in their lives.

In Step 4 of the Get Your Body Back manual, we look at your "Why"... the strong reason that will propel you to make the changes that you know you'll have to make in your lifestyle and habits, in order to see the changes you want in your body.

Stay with me here and we'll walk through a fairly typical scenario.

Jane is unhappy with the way her body looks. She figures she's gained about 40 pounds in the last ten years. She's not sure how that many pounds crept onto her 5'4" frame but, by the way her clothes fit, and the size she is now buying, there's no escaping the extra body fat that she's carrying around with her.

Depending on how she feels on any given day, Jane may berate herself for over-eating at a recent party, she may blame her weight-gain on her desk job and her lack of mobility, she may struggle with the demands of being a single mom with no time for herself, or she may decide that she's just too tired to care today.

Consider the possibility that, with each of these scenarios, Jane is thinking thoughts, and her thoughts are keeping her stuck.

Now either you're still with me and ready to keep reading, or you think I'm a bit nuts, and you're ready to move onto another blog, where the writer is blessed with a little more sanity.

Let me take you back to a few years ago when I had reached my highest weight - 150 pounds. At 5'1", this was a lot of weight for me to carry around. From time to time, I would think about what had gotten me to this place. I added up the logical reasons:

1. I had recently ended a 5-year relationship, where the fella and I had spent every weekend dancing at the club until our clothes were drenched with sweat.
2. The new boyfriend was fairly well-to-do and we spent at least 3-4 nights a week eating at fancy restaurants (and he didn't dance).
3. I had just given up a job that had allowed me to make my own hours and completely control my own schedule, and I'd stopped going to the gym.
4. I had started full-time school and was sitting at a desk from 9-5, Monday to Friday.
5. Between homework and getting the kids and myself off to school in the morning, I couldn't make it to the gym and still get to class on time.

Obviously, these reasons were clear proof that I was not in control of the circumstances, and I had no power to control the state that my body was in.

But I wasn't happy with my body and dissatisfaction can be one of our greatest motivators.

When I first saw Bill Phillips' book, Body for Life, I was inspired by those before and after shots. I was sure that, if they could do it, so could I. Then I got my before-photos back from the drug store, and I was horrified at what I saw. I collapsed in a crumpled heap, in tears, on the bed.

Some time later, I heard an ad on the radio about a local company that was hosting a Body Transformation Challenge. I went to the info session, signed a monthly contract, and started again. The before pics didn't upset me quite as much that time, I was a little more determined.

But, as life often does, my circumstances changed and I felt that I couldn't afford the monthly fees any longer, so I dropped out of the program. An important thing had happened in that time, though; I'd seen myself lose about 7 pounds of body fat, and I knew I wanted more of that.

Time passed by, the weight had returned. I was in California at a Nutrition conference and the company announced a Body Transformation Challenge. They suggested a program of lifestyle and behaviour change. I liked some of what I heard, and I found myself feeling angry about the rest. But the prize was a share of $40,000...and a chance to be featured on the website and in the company promotional materials.

Armed with the new plan, I headed back to Vancouver. What did I do differently this time around?

I decided what my new weight was going to be. As Linda Proctor (wife of Bob Proctor) would say, I made the decision in advance.

My new weight was to be 125 pounds.

I wasn't thinking about losing weight, I was focused on weighing 125 pounds.

How I was going to accomplish that, I had no idea.

I went through a few of my favorite magazines with scissors, cutting out "125". I placed my cut-outs all around me. On my computer screen, on my fridge; I even wrote it on my hand in ball-point pen.

Most of the time, it felt completely impossible that I would achieve a body weight of 125 pounds. It had been twenty years since I had seen that weight on the scale.

But I kept the number 125 in front of me at all times.

You can probably guess what I weigh today - that's right, 125 pounds. Sure, for the contest, I even weighed-in below 125 but, guess where my weight settled out, after everything was said and done...

Yup, 125 pounds!

So back to James Allen...and, in fact, back to Bob and Linda Proctor, Napolean Hill, U. S. Anderson, Shakespeare, Rhonda Byrne, John Assaraf, Jack Canfield, James Arthur Ray, Joe Vitale, Denis Waitley, Neale Donald Walsch, John Kehoe, Michael Losier, George Winslow Plummer, etc, etc, etc...you get my drift?

"Thinking makes it so" (that's from Shakespeare's Hamlet)...and, "What you think about, you bring about" from another wise source.

Don't ever doubt that your thoughts are creating your reality. When you're ready to see yourself at your desired body weight, you decide what that number will be, and you fix that number in your mind.

Then, and only then, can you and I get to work...

Luv ya...

See you at your ideal weight! Billie